Day 29 • C O M M U N I T Y •
Until very recently I had no community and worked home alone, day in day out, with no human contact and no social interaction until my boyfriend arrived home in the evenings. I have friends who I meet every few weeks on a 1-2-1 basis but nothing regular. This led me to being extremely isolated and whilst I love my own company in moderation, I knew that this isolation and loneliness was really unhealthy for me. When Alex pointed out what I already knew I felt motivated to reach out and start a brand new meet up group for local creatives and small businesses who also work from home, alone. The response was overwhelming.
This was only 2 months ago but since then we have met most weeks for Tuesday coffees and more recently, coffee/ work/ lunch meet ups where we each bring a portable project and/ or laptop and work side by side for a few hours. This little group has been my saviour, as pre-Christmas I was literally thinking about jacking the whole art thing in as I couldn’t stand to be alone any more! Real face-to-face meet ups with really lovely, creative people have been amazing for me and I can’t wait to see how the group grows and develops.
In addition to the ‘real’ people I’ve met, a whole new bunch of amazing ‘insta’ friends have been introduced to me over the last month during March Meet the Maker, which has been wonderful! I’m realising that a real life and an online community is fundamental for me and I’m so grateful to now have both😍🌈 *Photo illustration adapted from one I did a while back for The Self-Esteem Team*
Day 30 • T O P • T I P • A D V I C E
This advice is totally for myself – stuff I really need to hear every single day!
••• Don’t compare yourself to others – comparison is the thief of joy! I constantly compare my skills and abilities and perceived level of success with other people and I invariably always fall short. I need to focus more on how far I’ve come, not on where I think I ‘should’ be…. and remember I am only ever seeing other peoples’ highlight reels, not their messy ‘behind the scenes’.
••• Social media likes do not define your worth – I can be obsessive with my checking of ‘likes’ and responses to my posts, even though I know in my heart that my worth is not dependent on validation from other people!
••• Keep going – even when it feels like an uphill struggle, remember that perseverance always pays off!
••• Be open to learning, development and growth. It’s inconceivable now how much you will improve and change over the next couple of years. I look back on my work from a short time ago and can’t believe how much better I’ve got!
••• Be grateful – keep on keeping on with the gratitiude lists. They make a big difference!
••• Don’t isolate – even though staying at home for 3 or 4 days straight is massively appealing most of the time, try and get out the house for some fresh air and exercise.
••• Find your people – this is a new one for me. Having just set up a local meet up group for creatives who work alone, I finally see the importance of connecting with other people doing the same as me! The friendship, exchange of ideas and inspiration that have sprung out of this group is amazing and I don’t know how I survived without it!
••• Try and enjoy the process – don’t just focus on the end result and bottom line! When I let go of the results and really focus on what I’m doing, it’s remarkable how much more I enjoy what I’m doing!